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Falling and Staying in Love

Posted on December 26, 2014 by Carl McKever Posted in Lifestyle .

Falling and Staying in LoveLove is a common word we hear every day. Love is equated to so many things. As you may have heard the famous cliché, we sometimes look for love in all the wrong places. What is love? What should I love? Is too much love a dangerous thing? Merriam-Webster defines love as a strong assurance of affection. I can say I love you, but if you’re not strongly affected in any way, love cannot be perceived from such words. Hugs, kisses, random talk, and spending time with someone all falls under the meaning of love.

In today’s society, it’s very easy to fall in love, but staying in love is where the game begins. Some fall in love at first sight while others fall in love as time progresses and they learn new things about the person or thing they admire. Love comes in categories. The four categories of love are Storge, Philia, Eros, and Agape. In order to reach an area in your life where you remain in love, you have to reach the agape level. Think about your favorite food or dessert for a moment. When I was young, I enjoyed candy apples. I would help my mother bake them and glaze them in the wee parts of the afternoon. Putting on the peanuts was my favorite part. It took a while for me to love candy apples. Once I gained an agape love for them, I began doing anything I could to obtain one or a few. I hope this blog post achieves the very same thing you are seeking for.

To begin, one must understand that “love” and “hurt” cannot mix just like light and darkness cannot. They are separate entities. Many times, people can accept hurt as a form of love. In my childhood years, they called it tough love; the child that got kicked out of his parent’s house and forced to live on his/her own. True love is not tough and it shouldn’t hurt. True love requires sacrifice, not hurt. If someone tells you about your actions and how you are hurting them, you’ll change or make progress to change if you love them. If not, you’ll continue hurting them. Love is sacrifice and will be discussed when I talk about agape love.

Secondly, you must love yourself. You cannot love anything or any person until you love yourself. Love what God created you to be from the inside out. Many times, we focus on the physical appearance and if we don’t look the part or fit in with the crowd, we feel we’re rejected and not loved. Loving you starts on the inside. Take a moment to sit down and write down all the things you like about yourself; your gifts, your smile, your skills, and so forth. There’s always something you can love about yourself if you try really hard to think about it; even if it’s small.

Falling and Staying in LoveThirdly, find a reason to love. When you find the reason to love, find out if it’s healthy or detrimental to your emotional health. Your joy and self-esteem interprets your view and mindset on the things around you. Ask yourself – why do I love this? How does loving this benefit me? Love is give and take. The giving is the sacrifice and the taking is the benefit you receive from loving. It’s a two-way street and if both parties aren’t making “love” work, it won’t be successful.

In closing, make the sacrifice to achieve love! Sometimes, you’ll be placed into circumstances where you have to agree to disagree and give up the right for the wrong. A mother’s birth is the best example. Though she didn’t agree with the pain and procedure to bring you into the world, she loved you so much that she was willing to sacrifice. What are you willing to give up today to show your love? Would you give up money and time? Would you give up some selfish ways and become selfless to others? Once you make the sacrifice to love, love yourself, and find a reason for loving, you can fall and remain in love with anybody and anything. It’s a process, but it’s worthwhile in the end!

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Dating Tips for College Students (Part Two)

Posted on February 9, 2014 by kejohns323 Posted in Lifestyle .

Once in a while, in the midst of the ‘flirtationships’, the hang outs and million calls, you meet someone who you just know is your future. (author unknown)

In the first part of this article, I expressed the notion of taking it slow in a romantic relationship. Doing this gives you the chance to evaluate your desires and expectations for a relationship. More importantly, it can help you get to know your person of interest and this is the essence of flirting done right. You gain mutual interest with a person you like, you get acquainted, and somewhere along the line, you find your lifelong partner! Just about every pop culture magazine and publication has ideas and advice for flirting with others (Just google something to the extent of “ways to flirt”). Though here are some basics:

  • Make eye contact and smile. They are basic ways to show and express interest.
  • Be casual in conversation with your love interest. Compliment them, and try not talk about yourself or complain too much.
  • Leave them wanting more. Leave a conversation before hitting an awkward pause. Let them know you enjoyed your interaction and hint at doing it again.
  • Be confident and be yourself. There’s just something about confidence that’s sexy. Some tips suggest some extra primping or practicing your looks and moves before facing your interest. If you can, perhaps even listen to a favorite song or two to pump you up. And put aside the negativity in your mind. You are an awesome, likeable, interesting person!

Here are some more advice articles on flirting:

http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt

http://thesinglewomanguide.com/how-to-flirt-9-effortless-ways-to-flirt-with-a-man/

http://sibg.com/flirting-101/

http://dating.lovetoknow.com/List_of_101_Ways_to_Flirt

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Dating Tips for College Students (Part One)

Posted on February 7, 2014 by kejohns323 Posted in Lifestyle .

Don’t you know it’s going too fast,
Racing so hard you know it won’t last, 
Don’t you know, what can’t you see,
Slow it down, read the sign, so you know just where you are going.
Stop right now
Thank you very much,
I need somebody with the human touch,
Hey you, always on the run,
Gotta slow down baby, got have some fun.
–Spice Girls, “Stop”

If you know (or just listened to) this song , it’s probably stuck in your head now, but I couldn’t help but to think of it while creating this article. The social aspect of the college experience may give you a lot of opportunities to either spend a lot of time mingling or spend a lot of exclusive time with that “special someone”. Whatever you’re doing, and wherever you are in terms of romantic relationships this Valentine’s season (single, taken, just starting out, ect.), take it from the Spice Girls and stop for a minute, slow down, and think about yourself and your attitude towards the relationship at hand. Here are some reasons to decelerate things a bit in these matters:

For yourself. Most college students are figuring out who they are and who they want to be, and perhaps you are too. Know thyself before intimately knowing someone else. Figure out what your goals, values, and desires in life are before bringing another person into the mix.  And make sure your baiting and dating won’t distract you too much from your school work.

For protection. Surely you know haste can make mistakes, and that can apply in forming new relationships as well. Don’t assume too much of the other person or dive right into serious matters early on, or else someone will be driven away and leave a broken heart. Get out of situations that make you feel uncomfortable or avoid them altogether. The right person will respect your boundaries.  

For the sake of time. Don’t make it a high priority and goal to marry around your graduation time! Make the most of the few years you have in the unique social environment that college is. There’s too much to do to be tied down with someone so quickly. Focus on forming friendly connections before a romantic connection.

For your future. If marriage is seriously a thought for your future, then take your dating relationships seriously. Get to know the other person like a best friend. Get to understand their thoughts and feelings, learn about their values and life goals. If there is common ground or room for compromise, then you’re on the right track for better and for worse.

More dating advice to come soon!

 

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No Fear Shakespeare Books

Posted on January 26, 2013 by James Agee Posted in Books .

No fear Shakespeare BooksIf you are like me, you love literature and always have high hopes for your English classes…then you attend the first class and realize you will be reading text written a million years ago that you can’t possibly relate to even if you wanted. In a frenzy to get the full original text editions of the books online I came across something that I don’t think a lot of college students really know about. You may have herd about No Fear Shakespeare, a really useful section on the SparkNotes website that has old books written in todays terms. What you may not know is they also have published print editions of many classic drama books that have the original text on one side of the page and the modern translation on the other side.

There really isn’t much to worry about when you have a story written in terms that you can truly understand. I would go to say students, including myself, who read these books using todays terminology will get more out of it than students who stick to trying to understand and interpret the original text themselves. In the age that we live in, if there’s some sort of assistance when it comes to hard classes or understanding the impossible, I say we should take advantage of that. Oh, and get this, on Amazon they are all around $5-$6. That’s super cheap, if you know anything about college books then you would agree. Just go to Amazon or your favorite book seller and search for “No fear Shakespeare, then your book or drama’s title”. I hope this little golden nugget of advice helps you out as it has helped me!

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Web Resources for Writers

Posted on May 27, 2012 by kejohns323 Posted in Lifestyle .

Web Resources For Writers

WritersDigest.com— This website has EVERYTHING a writer could want and need! There’s a log of interesting writing prompts to start an interesting short story. Many workshops and books are offered to hone your skills and create a great read. Editorial blogs are frequently published, sharing useful information for fellow writers to consider. Also, if you’re looking to get work published, Writer’s Digest offers many features to help you in that process. Whether it’s a hobby or a serious career, Writer’s Digest is your one-stop shop for help and inspiration.

Purdue Online Writing Lab— It’s the mission of this website to assist you in your development as a writer regardless of your skill level, but secondary level students will find it particularly useful. There are guides for APA, MLA, and Chicago style formatting, and subject-specific writing. Read up on your technique and get a passing grade on your next paper!

Dictionary.com— Words are important to a writer. So get to know their meanings with this site. Looking for a synonym? Just click the thesaurus option for a list of synonymous (or different) words and phrases. With crosswords, word games, and interesting articles on the lives and history of certain words, this website is easy and fun to use. Download the Dictionary.com app for free to look up words on the go.

Terriblackstock.com–…Or whoever your favorite author might be. Most contemporary writers maintain a website from where they may share insight into their own lives and writing processes. Search an author that interests you, check out what inspires them in their craft, and put into practice some things that they do. You want to be the author of a popular best-seller, right? Then a good way to become one is to learn from one.

Does writer’s block or ADD have you lost and staring at a blank screen or unfinished work? Surf the web kick start or spice up your writing project. Pass the class with helpful resources. Bypass your writing roadblocks and take the road to successful writing today!

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Apps For A Healthier You

Posted on May 20, 2012 by James Agee Posted in Health, Tech .

A Healthier YouIt seems anymore that technology is a permeant fixture in the lives of just about everyone. To some this may be an excuse to not live healthy or put health on a lesser priority, but it is actually a great way to stay healthy. Some of the most effective and popular apps on the market today deserve some recognition. If you own any iod device, basically an Apple product such as an iPod Touch, iPhone, or iPad, then you already have the base for what these apps are all about! Here are the best fitness and health apps on the market.

MyFitnessPal – Now you don’t need an ios device for this because they have a website that does the same thing, but this app makes it very simple to track weight loss, manage your diet, connect with other people wanting to stay healthy and loose weight, and it has just about every feature someone looking to stay healthy on the go would want. This app is FREE!

Couch-to-5K – Talk about an effective app! This app not only sets a simple to follow plan to get you healthy and ready to run a 5K if you want to, but it has a built in music player for when you are doing the plan, three different digital trainers to choose from to guide you along, and offers the option for finding 5K’s near you and even gives you a discount for registering for a 5K. This app cost $1.99.

Sleep Cycle – Everyone knows that you can’t exercise and be healthy if you are tired and exhausted to begin with. Sleep Cycle is an app that monitors your motion while you sleep and determines when you are in your lesser sleep cycle, meaning you aren’t in as deep a sleep, and it goes by the time you set to be woken up. It gradually wakes you up by playing your choice of sound, music, or regular alarm noise. This app is important because it wakes you up on time and does it in a way that makes you feel like you have gotten a great nights sleep every time! This app is $0.99.

Pedometer – There is a paid and free version of this app, both are great! This app takes the pedometer to the next level by allowing you to listen to your music while walking, running, jogging, etc. it also records spikes in how fast you are going, as well as time, and it does all of this while setting goals for walking with you. If you plan on having your ios device with you, then this is the app to get, but it is ment for iPod Touch and iPhone, sorry but I doubt you would want to carry an iPad with you while you go jogging.

These are some of the best health and fitness apps on the market, some are free, and some cost, but none are over $3. Health is such an important thing, so I have a feeling you won’t mind putting down a dollar or two to make your tech life a little more healthy.

Apps For A Healthier You

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