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Dating Tips for College Students (Part Two)

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Once in a while, in the midst of the ‘flirtationships’, the hang outs and million calls, you meet someone who you just know is your future. (author unknown)

In the first part of this article, I expressed the notion of taking it slow in a romantic relationship. Doing this gives you the chance to evaluate your desires and expectations for a relationship. More importantly, it can help you get to know your person of interest and this is the essence of flirting done right. You gain mutual interest with a person you like, you get acquainted, and somewhere along the line, you find your lifelong partner! Just about every pop culture magazine and publication has ideas and advice for flirting with others (Just google something to the extent of “ways to flirt”). Though here are some basics:

  • Make eye contact and smile. They are basic ways to show and express interest.
  • Be casual in conversation with your love interest. Compliment them, and try not talk about yourself or complain too much.
  • Leave them wanting more. Leave a conversation before hitting an awkward pause. Let them know you enjoyed your interaction and hint at doing it again.
  • Be confident and be yourself. There’s just something about confidence that’s sexy. Some tips suggest some extra primping or practicing your looks and moves before facing your interest. If you can, perhaps even listen to a favorite song or two to pump you up. And put aside the negativity in your mind. You are an awesome, likeable, interesting person!

Here are some more advice articles on flirting:

http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt

http://thesinglewomanguide.com/how-to-flirt-9-effortless-ways-to-flirt-with-a-man/

http://sibg.com/flirting-101/

http://dating.lovetoknow.com/List_of_101_Ways_to_Flirt

Dating Tips for College Students (Part One)

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Don’t you know it’s going too fast,
Racing so hard you know it won’t last, 
Don’t you know, what can’t you see,
Slow it down, read the sign, so you know just where you are going.
Stop right now
Thank you very much,
I need somebody with the human touch,
Hey you, always on the run,
Gotta slow down baby, got have some fun. –Spice Girls, “Stop”

If you know (or just listened to) this song , it’s probably stuck in your head now, but I couldn’t help but to think of it while creating this article. The social aspect of the college experience may give you a lot of opportunities to either spend a lot of time mingling or spend a lot of exclusive time with that “special someone”. Whatever you’re doing, and wherever you are in terms of romantic relationships this Valentine’s season (single, taken, just starting out, ect.), take it from the Spice Girls and stop for a minute, slow down, and think about yourself and your attitude towards the relationship at hand. Here are some reasons to decelerate things a bit in these matters:

For yourself. Most college students are figuring out who they are and who they want to be, and perhaps you are too. Know thyself before intimately knowing someone else. Figure out what your goals, values, and desires in life are before bringing another person into the mix.  And make sure your baiting and dating won’t distract you too much from your school work.

For protection. Surely you know haste can make mistakes, and that can apply in forming new relationships as well. Don’t assume too much of the other person or dive right into serious matters early on, or else someone will be driven away and leave a broken heart. Get out of situations that make you feel uncomfortable or avoid them altogether. The right person will respect your boundaries.  

For the sake of time. Don’t make it a high priority and goal to marry around your graduation time! Make the most of the few years you have in the unique social environment that college is. There’s too much to do to be tied down with someone so quickly. Focus on forming friendly connections before a romantic connection.

For your future. If marriage is seriously a thought for your future, then take your dating relationships seriously. Get to know the other person like a best friend. Get to understand their thoughts and feelings, learn about their values and life goals. If there is common ground or room for compromise, then you’re on the right track for better and for worse.

More dating advice to come soon!

 

The Library: A Place for All

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One may think the campus library is for students of literary studies or those who are too overly-consumed by their schoolwork to be anywhere else. Though that vast storehouse of knowledge and information does provide English majors publishedThe Library: A Place for All studies on everyone from Shakespeare to Hemmingway, and for the over-achievers the optimal place for working, those misconceptions and stereotypes don’t have to exclude you from being a “library regular”. No matter what kind of student you are, the library has something for you!

As mentioned before, the library is the ideal place for getting schoolwork done. Concentration is thick in the atmosphere. You walk in and you’ll find many others here are engaged in studying. The noise level is generally between silent  and hushed conversations. Study racks or work areas usually withdrawn from the main entryway are also available to further disconnect from distractions.

As you’re wandering the library, you probably can’t help much looking at the masses of books and resources surrounding you. The tools of study mean just as much as the place of study, and the library is a workshop of resources that can be of some use to you. The campus library should have books on every subject imaginable. Art, politics, relationships, education, chemistry—you name it! Learn how to use your library’s catalogue and locate books there to find just the topic you’re looking for (if not, something similar). You probably don’t have time to read a book from cover to cover, but at least skimming through a few pages of important sections or sections of interest can give you the facts and ideas you need to better understand a tricky concept or to include in a paper. Also consider picking up something pertaining to your profession or passion if you happen to come across a good title. You’ll never know what you’ll find! Magazines might also be available if you want another option for light or leisurely reading. Maybe your library has a stock of movies or documentaries. Look into the available collection and consider having a movie marathon when you have free time.

The library can also bring together the drudges of homework with the fun of friends and classmates. The library may be a location for tutoring services, group work, study parties, or even some club meetings. Working there may also make for an interestingly good campus job. If you seek more than a good read, internet access and connection for work or play can be readily attained at the library—perhaps more readily available there than other places on campus!

No matter who you are, you’ll need to study and dedicate time to schoolwork. Where you those things can hold just as much affect as whether or not you do. You can find the library to be a great place to work, being a minimally  distracting place. Also dive into its many resources for a gem of interesting information or the internet service, and look there for opportunities to collaborate and learn with fellow students. Don’t wait until midterms and finals to discover all the great things your campus library offers!

Under the Radar – CupidRadar

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CupidRadarThe good ol’ days of quality time spent face-to-face with another human being live in the shadows of today’s texting, social networking, Facetime videochatting, and voicemail recording. Technology has separated people, but the online dating site, CupidRadar.com, uses technology to bring people together. In the midst of an internet full networks that function for the purpose of creating romantic relationships, CupidRadar’s use of today’s contrivances to achieve that goal is one thing that sets them apart from the others. They put to good use geo-locating technologies (and a free app) in smart phone devices when it comes to finding a match. So you can find an interesting person at the store, restaurant, coffee place, or wherever you may be! CupidRadar also values time, so new registrants won’t have to go through endless personality assessments in order to get started. Just a little search criteria and CupidRadar picks out other users in the area who might interest you when you search. From there, you send a message to your potential match through the site’s messaging services and hopefully create an opportunity to meet face-to-face. If you wish not to be picked up by other searches because you and your date hit it off or otherwise, you can use the “go invisible” or “not interested” options to not appear on another person’s radar. The “going invisible” option can be deactivated, but the “not interested” one is permanent.

The days of yore don’t have to be obsolete in this day and age. CupidRadar makes such time possible through smartphone capabilities. You can communicate with interesting singles in the proximity of your city block in a matter of minutes (and hopefully meet in person soon after)!